Heron or Pigeon?
When I was in graduate school (a long long time ago), my professor asked us to introduce ourselves through a metaphor. You know the kind – if I was an animal what kind would I be? In years since I’ve tormented my own Psychology classes with this same introductory activity. Students squirm, some roll their eyes…but in the end they always rise to the occasion and without fail we get a more interesting, richer (sometimes humorous…and always more real) picture of each other than we’d get with, “Hello. My name is…”
I remember in those first years sitting by a lake thinking of my own metaphor. I was living in Florida at the time, it was a beautiful day and the park was filled with birds. My attention was drawn to the beautiful Great Blue Heron standing just inside the water. Graceful. Elegant. Mesmerizingly still. Mindfulness…personified (or, birdified?).
Ah…right then I knew – I wanted to be a Heron. Yes, to be so calm, to use energy discerningly, and embody such an aura of stillness. Just watching the great bird, I was both more alert and more relaxed.
Then…I turned my head and there beside me was a flock of…pigeons. Pecking the ground, moving in circles, looking a bit confused, not an ounce of stillness in them. The polar opposite of my Heron. I couldn’t help but laugh, and with a sigh, admit… I am part pigeon.
Since that day I have consciously worked with this duality – the striving for heronhood and the nature of pigeonhood, both part of my essence.
For over twenty years I have blended my backgrounds in education, counseling, psychology and coaching and my passions for mindfulness, creativity, wellness and neuroscience into work that deeply matters to me – helping people develop self-awareness, agency, empathy, and a respect for what is REAL within them.
Emotional Intelligence. Stress Management. Mindfulness. Result Optimization.
These are the areas I attend to on my real quest – to start a movement of REALNESS. Because I know that only when we Get Real, can we get on with the business of Success and Happiness…and creating a life, work and world that matters.